March 15th, 2010
I was with this girl the other day, we're good friends and i like her a little but i'm not sure if she feels the same, and she started talking about her family (parents going through a massive divorce settlement) and she started crying - i wasn't sure what to do so i held her hand, and it didn't seem to help. what would you have done? her issues arn't going to blow over to soon so what should i do in the future? now i feel bad for letting her cry.You cannot stop people from crying. But you can be their and lend them your ear, and show them you care for them. She needs to vent her feelings and hopefully discuss this so that she can realise it is not her fault and she may not be able to mend what is broken between others. She needs to learn that they are still her mother and father but she may not see them together but she can still have a good relationship with them both.You did right. A sympathetic ear can be more help than anything. Some times she just needs to cry. Be her friend. You know, in a situation like that, all you can really do is listen, and be there when she needs to vent. I probobly would have given her a big hug, trying to make her feel better, but the holding of the hand gesture was a good idea. Just be there, be a friend. Good luck.
TJRespect for wanting to be there for your friend =]
you shouldnt feel bad for "letting" her cry.
she needed to cry and you should be glad she's comfortable enough around you to do that.
just be there for her and help her with whatever she needs until she's okay.
if you kind of like her in a more than friends way then now is not the time to try anything. she is vulnerable and probably just needs a friend.You could've tried putting your arm around her shoulder or draw her into a hug to let her cry into your shoulder. It shows that you want to support her and be there for her.
And don't, under any circumstance, think you can use a situation like that to worm into her good books by giving her suggestions about how supportive you are. It's a bastard think to do, so don't do it. If she thinks you're a good person for supporting her, than it's a bonus, but don't think you can use it to your advantage outright. hug her more and hold her a little tight
then start kissing her slowly slowly
get her all warm with the hugging
my favorite technique for girls
did it once it worked the crying stopped she was happyhug her and tell her everything will be alright
kiss her if necessary
actually.... it is necessary... kiss her!
then ask her outBe friend and nice to her but What is divorce settlement is more important than anything????? I have seen eyes in crocodiles eyes myself. Honestly be very much wary of these kind of relations. Nothing wrong in being nice to her and making her happy and being little more than friend to her but always keep in mind what kind of settlement is going to be. Being practical and keep yourself in control of situation till the end will help. If all good go ahead if something fishy take your hands off it.All you can do is be supportive of her and give her a shoulder to cry on when she needs it. Give her a hug too because it will make her feel more secure psychologically. Just be her friend, that's what she needs right now.ok. 1st of all. why would you want guys to answer this question? don't you think girls might know what a girl would want you to do in this situation?
anyways. if she's this open around you, then she doesn't think you're gross or anything so that's good. now basically what you should do is just hold her. just while you're sitting with her or w/e, if she starts crying again then just say with her and hug her. but don't worry about "letting her cry" sometimes you just have to let it out.Divorce is a life altering event for the children no matter what age. I would have held her as you hold a child, gently with you arms about her, as long as she was comfortable. Assure her she will get through this. This is basic human interdependence - we need the assurance that others understand and care. She trusted you a friend to open up and share her pain.
She is not going to be ready for any relationships in the near term but she needs friends. Be a friend.nah you did okay but maybe ya should have like put yo arm round her and like rubbed her back if ya get me and/or given he a hug I'd say not much you can do that didn't already do. You didn't let her cry. She cried because she needed to cry. You can't stop someone from crying. In the future be a friend.Yeahh
just be there for her
it might not seem like it but it helps u hold her and reassure everything is going to be okI would have taken her in my arms and let her have a good cry. Holding them says a little more about your strength and being there being there as a true friend.don.t feel bad about yourself, keep doing your best to comfort her and i'm sure with time and good hope, things will get better#If you have any other info about this subject , Please add it free.# |
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